This was originally published at An Extremely Uncomfortable Place by Basic Pitch on May 30, 2017.
It is a travesty.
I will not be attending the all-girl screening of Wonder Woman at my city’s Alamo Drafthouse. I am devastated.
Tuesday nights are busy for us, mini-me has dance and with her recital right around the corner, she really can’t afford to miss a practice. So instead of enjoying a groundbreaking movie surrounded by women, I will be sitting in my car while my progeny gets one more chance to practice her hip hop dance moves before the big show. She assures me it’s important, I have my doubts and called her a fun killer. She rolled her eyes. Pre-teens are fun.
Even though I can’t attend, I am so excited for this movie’s release. It’s a real, big-budget, superhero movie about a woman. A WOMAN. Not a woman as part of a group that is mostly men, not a woman as a sidekick or romantic interest of a superhero. For the first time, a superhero story will be told on the big screen with a woman front and center, not due to her adjacency to stronger and more powerful men. Whether superhero movies are your bag or not, every woman should see this and make sure their daughters see it. Every man should see it (but not at the all-girl showing) and he should want his daughters to see it. Women can be front and center without the story line revolving around children or cancer, most of us knew this. Most of us have lived our lives trying to prove this only to see women’s power downplayed in relation to the men who surround them. This movie, no matter what the box office says, is important.
Why is it then that when Alamo announced their special screenings did many men lose their shit? We have lived for centuries with everything being for, about, or by men. They still hold most positions of strength in industry, finances, STEM, entertainment, sports, religion, and government, just like they’ve always had. We get one screening of one movie on one night to celebrate a character who has meant so much to so many women since childhood with proceeds going to Hope House, a domestic violence service. I mean, no one is offering, but that’s a pretty easy trade to make. They can go to the movie and support Hope House, we can take over the world so maybe organizations like Hope House aren’t so vitally important.
It’s not that they actually care about that movie, or care about the Alamo Drafthouse. It’s that this isn’t about them.